As a divorce attorney, I know every letter of the law. But some of the most effective “letters” at my disposal fall outside the conventional alphabet.
It’s almost as if I have a secret weapon when it comes to trial strategies.
You see, I help my clients visualize and believe in positive outcome.
Recently, as I finished preparing a client for a big custody trial, I said, “Okay, this isn’t legal advice, but it’s very, very important.”
Both she and her mother leaned forward in their chairs.
I looked into my client’s eyes and I said:
“See yourself having your son with you. Know that the best is going to happen no matter what, for all involved. Feel confident that you’ve done your best. You’ve done all you can. Feel peace that you’re ready and that we will do our best. This case is not without challenges, and I can’t promise we will win. But I know that we are going to do our best.”
I tell her this for her, and also for me.
You see, this is the kind of case that at one time would have sent me running for junky comfort food. These days, I know that my energy belongs with me and I’m visualizing that positive outcome…
And I’m not doing it from the bottom of a bowl of processed cheese, the crumbs of leftover corn chips, and the better part of a whole bottle of wine.
I stay present, I stay focused, and I stay mindful of the result I want.
We may or may not prevail in this case. But in the battle in my head — the one between me and me — I’ve already won.
Where in your life are you fighting a battle that would benefit from visualizing a positive outcome?